We go fishing every now and then. My father in law has a small boat and we’ve gone out on the ocean over the years and always had fun. We usually bring home dinner as well. I’m not an expert but I know what it feels like to reel in a big one. I’ve caught some pretty big fish and yes, I do have photos to prove it.
So it’s no surprise that I own a small tackle box and a few fishing poles although I’m not exactly sure where they all came from. I have to admit that I had never really used them. Well, I might have used the tackle box but I wasn’t even sure where it was when my wife asked me if I had one. Anyway, after a quick once over my father in law stated our gear was serviceable to catch fish so I thought. LET’S GO FISHING!
I told my son we could go out on the pier at night and see what we could find. He was so excited. We gathered our gear and loaded up the car. We were going to head out to Port San Luis and see what we could catch. It’s a cool place and I was stoked we get some alone time with him. He has three sisters so it’s important we get man time every now and then.
We stopped on the way for coffee and hot chocolate. While I was there I checked for bait but there was none to be found. No worries, I had some lures and they might work so on we went. As we got closer to the pier my son asked how we were going to get the fish home. I let him know I brought a small cooler but in my own head I was doubting we’d need it.
My oldest daughter is almost 14. Just reading those words after typing them blows my mind. It seems like she was just a baby yesterday. I was always told that time flies and they’ll be grown up before you know it and sure enough, they were right. She’ll be a freshman next year and we are finishing up on a lot of life lessons. She’ll need to spread her wings soon and I want to do my best to make sure she is ready to soar.
A few weeks ago she and I had to go out of town for a soccer tournament. This was her first time playing at the club level and I was excited for her. I remember the first time I played on a club team. I remember the nerves and the worry and how the fast the game became. I wanted to go over all of that with her but I didn’t want to add any anxiety that she may already have. We had a 4 hour drive ahead of us and I decided it would be best to just ask questions and listen. So that’s what I did.
Hello. We may have already met. Well, what I mean is that you may have already read one of my blogs. If you haven’t there’s no need to worry. This a a great time to get started. I’ve finally decided what I want to write about. This blog started out as a class project a few years back and I thought I would keep it around as a creative outlet. Over the years I’ve had a few sporadic posts usually prompted by my own musings but have never had any real direction. I believe to a certain extent that is why I have floundered so much.
So, without further ado, I’ve decided to write about fatherhood. It’s one of my greatest responsibilities and something that I dearly love. I also know that there are tons of other men out there that want to be the best dad’s they can and a useful tip every now and then can go a long way. Now, I’m not saying I’m the best dad ever but I had one of the greatest examples ever growing up as well as a great group of guys that I am constantly learning from. Above all else I have my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, as the ultimate example and I want to share my experiences and insights with you in hopes that you can also be the best dad you can be.
A great boxer once said, “It ain’t about how hard you can hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.” When I first heard those words spoken by a battered veteran of pugilism I knew he was probably right. I also knew he was speaking about a lot more than the boxing ring. He was speaking about life. Now I must confess that I’m talking about a fictional character. A figment of someone’s imagination but it doesn’t make those words any less true. I imagine that most people look to self-help books or blogs by inspiring writers for their inspiration. I could be wrong but based on the number of self-help books published every year I don’t think I’m that far off. Now I know I was supposed to share how inspired I was by a blog post and share that with you but I don’t read blogs. If it weren’t for a certain class assignment I wouldn’t even be writing this one. But here we are and I did happen to find a blog post with my favorite scene from Rocky Balboa in it. Whether you view the clip at Joseph Michael’s blog or on Youtube the message should be the same. As Mr. Michael summarizes, “Success isn’t determined by how smart, talented, or skilled you are; it is determined by how hard you can persevere through challenges.”
Fatherhood can be a doozy. You have all these ideas on how it’s going to work out, what you’re going to do and what your plans are but it never quite works out that way. As I sit here writing I have ribs on the barbeque, I’m trying to get homework done so we can go to the drive in, my family is tye dying shirts in the backyard and I can’t forget about those ribs. Somewhere between 14 years of marriage, 4 kids and a career 2 Dads Music was formed. It’s literally 2 dads, their families and a lot of craziness. John and I (Joe if you didn’t know that) collided into a seismic friendship that must have been destined to happen. We are like Batman and Robin, butter and toast, chow mein and orange chicken. Ok, that last one was a little strange but you get the idea. Read More