We go fishing every now and then. My father in law has a small boat and we’ve gone out on the ocean over the years and always had fun. We usually bring home dinner as well. I’m not an expert but I know what it feels like to reel in a big one. I’ve caught some pretty big fish and yes, I do have photos to prove it.
So it’s no surprise that I own a small tackle box and a few fishing poles although I’m not exactly sure where they all came from. I have to admit that I had never really used them. Well, I might have used the tackle box but I wasn’t even sure where it was when my wife asked me if I had one. Anyway, after a quick once over my father in law stated our gear was serviceable to catch fish so I thought. LET’S GO FISHING!
I told my son we could go out on the pier at night and see what we could find. He was so excited. We gathered our gear and loaded up the car. We were going to head out to Port San Luis and see what we could catch. It’s a cool place and I was stoked we get some alone time with him. He has three sisters so it’s important we get man time every now and then.
We stopped on the way for coffee and hot chocolate. While I was there I checked for bait but there was none to be found. No worries, I had some lures and they might work so on we went. As we got closer to the pier my son asked how we were going to get the fish home. I let him know I brought a small cooler but in my own head I was doubting we’d need it.
We got to the end of the pier, unloaded our gear and prepped our lines. Before we even cast we lost one of the two weights I had. Instantly down to one poll. No worries, we could make due. Dropped the line and got it caught. I was thinking the whole night was over in the first 30 seconds. We managed to get the line free and got the hook into the water.
We kept casting but never caught any fish. We even ran into a friend that gave us some squid and mackerel but we got skunked anyway. We ended up staying out there for almost three hours. We moved around to a few different spots on the pier at my son’s urging but I guess it just wasn’t meant to be. The only fish we brought home was our bait.
Despite our catastrophic failure at fishing we still had a ton of fun. We both went home with smiles on our face and he had a fish story to tell. I have a lot to learn as a fisherman. It’s ok though. I don’t have to be an expert to take my son fishing I just need to be willing. You don’t have to be an expert to take your kids on an adventure. You just need to find a way to connect with them.
I heard a story told by Terry Crews (the old spice guy) about his son watching Twitch. Terry had no idea what it was but he wanted to connect with his son by doing something he enjoyed. He sat there with his son and got introduced to gaming. They both play now and really enjoy their time together. It’s opened them both up to a whole new world and common interests.
Find out what your kids love and do it with them. Who knows, they may even teach you something. Worse case scenario you’ll both learn something and you may even end up liking it yourself. The key is just to be willing to try. My son and I plan on going back out. We may not catch any fish but we’ll have another story to tell. And no matter what I got to spend some time with my buddy. Make it a priority and cherish it. They will carry those memories for a life time.